Loving and Healing

Loving and Healing for the Post Abortive Woman:

Many women suppress the pain of their abortion, and actually the whole experience, for years.  Eventually it comes to the surface and we are here for them, providing confidential guidance and counseling in walking through the grief, into the arms of Christ's complete forgiveness and healing.  They do not have to carry this painful secret alone.

Helping A Friend Considering Abortion:

  • The first and most important step is to encourage your friend to confirm her pregnancy at our clinic (Alternative Women's Center) or one like it. Our tests are complimentary and appointments are confidential.
  • A positive home pregnancy test is not a pregnancy diagnosis.
  • Offer to go along with her to the appointment. You may want to ask whom she has discussed abortion with, whether she felt able to discuss her feelings and concerns openly.  
  • Did she know that by 21 days her baby has a heartbeat? 
  • This is a difficult decision for your friend to make and it is important that all her options have been opened up and presented.  
  • The clinic is able to discuss the physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual aspects of this decision; concerns for her ability to live with the abortion decision and what is the next step to take.  
  • All of these concerns and more will be addressed at her appointment with a health care professional. 
  • She may qualify for an ultrasound to determine her baby's viability. She may not need an abortion. As many as 25 percent of first-time pregnancies end in miscarriage.  
  • You are honoring your friend by giving her the opportunity to make an informed decision.

Helping A Friend Who Had An Abortion:

  • Memories associated with the abortion experience can be difficult and even painful.
  • When talking with someone about an abortion experience, be sensitive as to where she is in her healing process.
  • How does someone know they need post-abortion healing?
     
    • Reluctant to talk about the abortion and /or feels guilt, anger, or sorrow when discussing their own abortion.
    • Tend to think of your life in terms of "before" and "after" the abortion.
    • Lingering feelings of resentment or anger toward people involved in the abortion, such as baby's father, friends, or parents.
    • Increased use of drugs/alcohol since abortion.
    • Vague sense of emptiness, loss or periods of depression.
       
  •  Let her know she is not alone. There is a place she can go for help.
     
    • Alternative Women's Center has women who have experienced abortion and sought and received healing and freedom.
    • Refer for immediate professional help if they have thoughts of suicide or are self hurting (cutting, anorexia).